I want to ask you to stop for a second. Stop and think about how many decisions you’ve made already today. You’ve probably decided what to have for breakfast, what to wear, or even which friends to see next week. Those decisions were probably pretty easy, right? But what are we supposed to do when it comes to the big, life-changing decisions?! It can be scary stuff! To make the process of picking a little easier, I’ve made a step-by-step guide to ‘decision making’!
1. Pause and consult the word:
Proverbs 19:2 [NIV]
Desire without knowledge is not good— how much more will hasty feet miss the way!
You don’t need to rush! Oftentimes, when we’re presented with a big choice we have plenty of time to decide. Take some time to step back, look at the situation, and consider every possible outcome. This makes it SO much easier to weigh the position you’re in and feel more in control of your next steps.
Psalm 119:105 [NIV]
Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.
Before making any moves, you’re going to want to consult the Word of God! It’s full of wisdom, knowledge, and insight that only the Holy Spirit could reveal to us. Usually there will either be A. a direct area of passage relating to your situation, or B. a clear principle to guide your decision. Let me explain:
If you were deciding whether to enter a relationship with someone, an example of a ‘clear passage’ would be 2 Corinthians 6:14 (do not be unequally yolked) because it’s giving clear instruction on that situation and how to move forward. On the other hand, an example of a principle would be 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 because it instructs us on how we should strive to act regardless of context, as it provides a good foundation.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!
Proverbs 15:22 [NIV]
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.
We’re called to fellowship as the church, so don’t be embarrassed to ask when you’re not entirely sure. In fact, asking for an outside perspective is actually really wise! Sometimes we can be too involved in the decision we’re trying to make, so having people around us to help show us other insights is incredibly helpful when we’re confused or unsure. God uses His people! But who should you ask? Here’s a short list with a few ideas:
- Your church elders
- A youth leader
- A trusted friend
3. Pay attention to your desires, but be ready to yield
When it comes to big decisions that will affect your life, consider what you desire to happen. God has given us desires and passions to help with these decisions. Just be prepared to yield if God says ‘no’ or ‘not yet’ (and remember, even a ‘no’ from God has goodness all over it!!!). Ultimately if what you desire will glorify God, there’s likely not an issue with that choice; Just be prepared to yield if God guides you elsewhere!
4. Ask for confirmation
Okay, let’s be honest: we’re not always going to hear from God when it comes to these decisions, but don’t lose hope! We have free will and God will give us decisions that we’ll be able to choose for ourselves. After consulting the Word for wisdom and seeking counsel from others, pray for God to confirm if it’s okay for you to pursue the decision you’ve reached. It doesn’t have to be a big booming “yes!” from the sky or “no” somehow appearing in the back of your journal, it can be as simple as things going really smoothly! I’ll expand:
Let’s say you’re deciding on whether or not to move houses. God doesn’t seem to be speaking, so you decide to move and pray for confirmation. One way that you could pray for confirmation is by simply asking God to shut any doors and to put a stop to the buying process. Simple! And if it turns out that God does shut doors, be prepared to yield to that and *not* move. However, if the whole process is unusually smooth and you feel peace about it, that’s probably God saying it’s okay to go with that decision to move house!
5. Finally, pray pray pray!
Keep God in it! He’s your Dad, and He wants a relationship with you. Don’t be afraid to express your frustration or upset or excitement at the decision you’ve been presented with; He knows it’s not always going to be easy but He wants you to keep Him in the centre of your life and the decisions you’re making. So pray: pray the Lord guides you, pray He makes a way, pray He puts a stop to it if it’s not the right decision, and give thanks regardless how it all seems!
I hope this helps some of you! I know how challenging it can be, especially when we’re guided to the decision we didn’t necessarily want, but just know that God has a plan for your life. It’s all written out, all we need to do is yield to Him and trust that He holds our future no matter how it looks. We only see snippets of what the next chapter holds, so trust the one who’s written the whole story.
Have a beautiful day!