When Lydia asked me to write a piece about body positivity, my heart sank as it is something I have personally struggled with throughout my teen years. My body has never fit into any of societies ‘attractive’ categories, as I am 6ft tall and curvy. This led me to never feeling feminine and ‘beautiful’, so I would hide behind a big personality and humour, disguising my insecurities. Over time, I have fully embraced my big personality and loudness, but always struggled with accepting how God has built me physically and made me look.
So often we are told ‘oh but God made you exactly how you are supposed to be’ but believing it is a completely different story and one that I and many people I know struggle with. It is sometimes easier to accept the hatred we have for our bodies than embracing who we are and how we have been created for a purpose.
Society has stolen the beauty and power that God has blessed the human body with, manipulating it into something that is based on how you look, telling you that to succeed in life and to be considered pretty you need to look a certain way and you need to fit the mold that they have made. This is a FABRICATION, produced by society.
Do you think this is what God wants?
God never intended for people to develop eating disorders, to count every calorie they consume, to stand on the weighing scales everyday, taking pills to make themselves worthy of societies corrupt standards. Every time you compare yourself to another person, or view yourself as ugly and unworthy of love, or allow another person to tell you that you aren’t good enough, God’s heart SHATTERS…..and He weeps, because He wishes you could see how you are complete perfection, made in the image of the KING. You are His masterpiece, worthy of an abundance of love, His most prized possession.
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.Psalm 139:13-14 [NIV]
Instead of feeling hatred and reject towards the body God has given you, remind yourself that self – love isn’t about striving for perfection, it’s about embracing the mess and chaos, the lumps and bumps, the scars and the blemishes. Your perfection is within your title as a daughter of the King, not what society claims you as. Confide in God for your confidence, allow Him to push you out of your comfort zone, showing this corrupt and toxic world that you may not be ‘perfect’ to them, but you are perfect in who God wants you to be. You are perfect for the role God has set on your heart. He has given you the strength and body to succeed in the plans He has for you and your life. He has given you the body that will help you persevere through every trial life puts you through. We as women of God need to stand as one against society and the strict mold that we are told we must fit to succeed as humans and prove that all we need is His acceptance of us.
“To love a piece of art is to love the creator of that piece”
When we eventually leave this Earth to Heaven, it isn’t our bodies that follow us there, it is our souls, our passions, our love for the people around us. During your time on Earth, God has blessed you with a beautiful shell, an exterior that gives you the power to travel, to see His creations, to bear children that will lift Him up also. Who are we to reject the gift God has given us, the beautiful shell He has taken time to mold and shape? If we all looked the same, part of our identity would be completely stolen from us and our personalities and passions would drown among the many faces that consumed the world.
I know its hard, but embrace what God has given you. That mole that you hate? God LOVES it. That bad photo your mum took? God has it on a canvas and looks at it in awe. Whatever it is, God is in awe of His creation and prays one day you will see how amazing you are.
Love yourself as much as you love God, He is your creator, sat at an artist’s table molding you, shaping you into perfection. There shouldn’t be a distinction between the love you have for yourself and the love you have for God, because to love a piece of art is to love the creator of that piece.
Society has placed a burden on your shoulders and God is waiting for you to allow Him to lift it off and allow you to be free and confident in Him.